I said in a previous post that I wouldn’t be much help in providing sound advice for young girls about to enter high school. I think I said something along the lines of “I sucked shit at it,” which is true. However, I did make it through relatively unscathed, so I figured I would offer what little information I found to be universally true:
First, let me cover the wardrobe thing: I reject the concept of dress codes. I am of the opinion that fashion is a form of art and I encourage all young people to create. However, you must understand that if your skirt is higher than Willie Nelson at Woodstock, people are gonna scope out your goods on the stairs. Undergarments are a good idea if you don’t want to be known as the girl with the vagina.
Remember when your mother said that Tommy was rude to you because he liked you? I’m here to tell you that while it may be true, it is also a pile of steaming horse shit. You do not have to accept anything less than decency from anyone that you interact with. There is a difference between keeping someone on their toes and being a total dick fart.
There are going to be folks that try to intimidate you simply because there is an imaginary hierarchy in high school and they think they are at the top. It is a natural situation and it will occur in many areas of life, but you do not have to abide by these “laws” simply because they are there. You have the right to be treated fairly, so ruffle some feathers and make some noise. Chances are good that these people only talk down to you because it works.
Clubs and activities are not lame. If you want to play chess, fucking play chess, okay? Whoop some chess ass. Nobody is too good to do things that they enjoy. And for Christ sake, quit doing things that you don’t like simply because your peers deem them to be socially acceptable. You’ll regret that shit later on.
Understand that this is not forever. I know that it seems like a helluva long road, and it is, but you’ll be better for the experience. A high school education is worth more than what you absorb in class. You’re going to learn what it is that you want. Emotionally, academically, athletically, sexually. You’re also going to have a better understanding of what it is that you DON’T want out of life. Don’t phone it in. Some days are going to be harder than others, but it is important that you stick it out, because the only thing worse than entering high school is leaving without anything to show for all of your scars.
Lastly, I want to say that it’s alright to be unsure of who you are. Everyone keeps telling you to remain true to yourself, right? Well, that’s really important. However, there’s a lot of factors that make up your entire being, and you’re going to notice that those factors grow and change and some of them may even disappear. I still have no fucking idea who the fuck Karlee is. (I spent a portion of my life believing that I would be a ventriloquist. Then R.L Stine ruined everything. I was pretty lost.) Whatever happens, don’t be discouraged- self discovery will be your life’s journey.
You’re gonna be alright, kid. Take it from me.